You are a gentleman, a gentle man or gently pleasant woman. You don’t behave well, you’re not paying attention all the time, you’re not aware when a situation requires your action and make the person you’re with feel to be the only one you’re listening to because you’re looking for a clap on your shoulder, the notion of “Good job! or a gesture of gratitude.

You’re not showing yourself from your best side because you want a “Thank you!”. You do it unconditionally. You don’t expect anything in return. You’re not in transaction mode. You’re in relation mode. Not necessarily relationship mode but eager to either establish or continue keeping up a healthy and nutritious relation.

Because you don’t do it so people thank you, you will always do it. You do it because you are a good person and have no shame to show it. In fact, you can brag about it. Gently, of course.

The take-away from today: Your deepest self shows you how to behave. As a child you knew what was right and wrong. As an adult you also know but sometimes lack clarity because of all the fog, noise and distraction around you. Be gentle to your thoughts, appreciate them. This will make you become a gentle man or woman.

This was episode 22 of the #weekdaykickoff. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.

Ask yourself why you want to make the big cash first and then do good, like you see a lot of famous people doing that.

Why not doing good as a career that you start in your 20s or 30s? Impress yourself by what you’re capable of and heavily make a positive impact on this planet already before your mid-life crisis (45 or so).

Screw YOLO and all that. Build up a reputation already when you barely know what reputation actually means. You’re 14? Great. Time to think big! I played soccer when I was that age and continued playing without any goal in life until 29.

That is almost 3 centuries of aimlessly messing around, without big purpose, without thinking that I have a duty – the duty to succeed as a person (in life and business) and the duty to fucking get off your couch and use your skills and talents so others benefit from that. It’s your duty to give what you have, to teach what you know. It’s your duty to contribute to this planet. Make yourself successful so that other people become successful as well!

Don’t wait until you have those 10 million on your bank account. Don’t wait until you had your first heavy surgery that makes you less capable to move. Don’t wait until your drive and agility equals that of a snail. You’re better than that. You’re more capable when your bones are fresh, your mind open and able to change perspective more dramatically.

Become a role model for your existing family and the family that will follow. Yes, you gain less money but you earn legacy. People will talk about you for centuries. How does that sound?

I’m creating a social-focused startup called ON BOARD. We offer learning journeys for small groups where you learn from locals and build down clichés that exist about countries, cultures and people. The planet becomes therefore more transparent and tangible so that people connect and understand one another better and deeper.

The take-away from today: Do good in the field where you feel most compelled. Don’t fall in love with the idea of you helping in a field because it would sound good or impress people. Follow your call, take your time to hear it and then go!

This was episode 21 of the #weekdaykickoff. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.

Watch the video: Start doing good when you’re young

Let’s sum up the lessons of this week 4 in the #weekdaykickoff.

Defeat being lazy

In order to overcome laziness you want to remind yourself why you’re here, doing what you’re doing, having your greater goal in mind, basically all the time in the back of your head.

The opposite is also not healthy, when you stretch it too much and exhaust yourself. Mister Burnout can’t wait to treat you.

Keep your thoughts positive (most of the time). You can allow negativity, but don’t let it dominate you.

Provoke

My favorite this week. Challenging what exists, being curious how to break it. This is what provocation is all about. Artists are the best examples for it.

So, provoke daily. Test things out. Break things. Repair things. Make things better. Hackers are also a good example of provoking. Not the bad ones that have no friends and express that through bad behavior 😉

Thinking big

Intentionally I didn’t name it “think big” because you ought to think like that constantly. Be in the process of going for the big fish, the huge banana, the grand final and spectacular finish.

Surround yourself by individuals who also think big. You will feel more comfortable when people think like you, like in the seanwes community, which I’m happy to be part of.

Play the game or don’t at all

It’s easy. You either join or you don’t. You’re in or you’re out. Full commitment means you are all in. Again, you don’t have to play the game. You can decide to not join at all.

On the other hand, why not join, learnt the rules, adapt to them and then change them, so that you dominate the pitch, the field, the space. So that you dominate the game. How does that sound?

The take-away for the weekend: Think positive most of the time. Negativity in too huge quantity will make you lose the game, if you decided to join — because it’s optional. But by entering the field you show you’re available, you made the first commitment towards the life you’ve been dreaming of all the time. Now keep thinking big, provoke here and there, in other words play and break with things, and ultimately have fun in the process, and only do what you enjoy doing.

This was episode 20 of the #weekdaykickoff. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.