You are a gentleman, a gentle man or gently pleasant woman. You don’t behave well, you’re not paying attention all the time, you’re not aware when a situation requires your action and make the person you’re with feel to be the only one you’re listening to because you’re looking for a clap on your shoulder, the notion of “Good job! or a gesture of gratitude.
You’re not showing yourself from your best side because you want a “Thank you!”. You do it unconditionally. You don’t expect anything in return. You’re not in transaction mode. You’re in relation mode. Not necessarily relationship mode but eager to either establish or continue keeping up a healthy and nutritious relation.
Because you don’t do it so people thank you, you will always do it. You do it because you are a good person and have no shame to show it. In fact, you can brag about it. Gently, of course.
The take-away from today: Your deepest self shows you how to behave. As a child you knew what was right and wrong. As an adult you also know but sometimes lack clarity because of all the fog, noise and distraction around you. Be gentle to your thoughts, appreciate them. This will make you become a gentle man or woman.
This was episode 22 of the #weekdaykickoff. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.