Hi, I’m talking to myself in case you didn’t notice. I was thinking about my default state of being. The core that defines me without context. You could say: Everything happens in context. Yes, but still. Just very metaphysically, what is your core, what is my core?

I found out that without having an objective or target in the back of my head making me move I’m selfish and lazy. And now I wonder a) who would also say (admit) that and b) should I start worrying?

You’re selfish because the only important thing is you when you are aimless. You’re in the center of your own attention.

You’re lazy because doing things for yourself bores you. If there’s nobody to share with, there’s nothing to care about, except your own existence but what’s the value of my existence anyway?

So, when the caring vanishes because you need at least two to care, then you become lazy and the caring turns into vanity, or zero. Caring = Zero. Or: var caring = 0.

All that is left then is your selfishness, you caring about your self, being in the center of self-attention. And since you only care when you share this caring also vanishes.

This means in conclusion that your caring for yourself vanishes. Your selfishness vanishes, becomes zero. Turns into vanity. Selfishness = Zero. Or. var selfishness= 0.

That’s then your core that got missing. And without core, no other elements, like with atoms. You need a core. And I just lost it, metaphysically of course. Or not?

The take-away from today: Always have a target in life. If not, you’ll lose your core. With no core, no existence. You have no target, you’ll stop existing. Target is the essence of life. Target to live!

This was episode 27 of the #weekdaykickoff 🌊. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.

In your everyday life you take position. Even by not being actively pursuing something, you represent your standpoint. If you don’t vote in the elections, you vote anyway. If you don’t take responsibility for the car accident you just had you, you take position.

Every moment is under your control if you take it. But what if you really don’t want to do it? What if doing nothing, retreating or even only doing the normal thing everyone else is doing, is your thing?

You don’t want to be special, so you go with the main stream and peek out every now and then because you’re still curious if some other people who take massively more action than you did another extraordinary thing, which you are jealous of, but do nothing about because special is something others are, not me, why would I want that?

Everybody should be in his place where he/she belongs, living an ordinary life and pursue basically nothing grand, nothing wildly extraordinary. Keep your life in a rail you can maintain, the mono-rail. If the rail breaks, you can’t continue because you didn’t look for alternatives, but that’s ok for you.

You’re average. Nothing really excites you because if it did you would stand out, and that would be very embarrassing. Imagine all the people looking at you and you getting red in the face, shy and mute. How would that feel? Yes, it would feel as if you could be more than Average Joe. But that’s not you. That’s not your goal. You’re “No Joe”, not “Yes Joe”. Everything that could be possible, is not possible because you think so. Everything that others are doing is a miracle, and you always wonder how that could’ve worked. “They must have had a lot of money to do that”, is your basic conviction.

Well, maybe they had, but consider looking at where they started. You could be surprised.

Everybody wants to rule the world? Nope, not everyone, and especially not you because then you would be remarkable, and this would be… ehm… actually pretty cool, but remember you’re “No Joe” with your “Average Joe” friends. You wouldn’t do that, would you?

The take away from today: In a highly ironic tone I made you aware of your probably normal existence. Nothing too fancy, exciting or adventurous happens in your life. “Average” is your first name and your average parents gave you just another ordinary last name as well. If you can identify with that, you’re either happy with your life because you enjoy what everybody else has been doing, you’re in an indifferent state of not knowing where your place really is (here’s the solution) or you’re bored of your existence which makes you long for your first big adventure in life! You don’t have to rule the world, but playing an integral part in making the world better, smarter, richer and funnier, that sounds appealing, doesn’t it?

This was episode 26 of the #weekdaykickoff 🌊. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.

Friday is summary day. I wrap up the week and sum up what you learnt in the #weekdaykickoff 🌊 series this week.

Your duty to succeed

For you personal life, your business, your family and eventually your pension you want to have success with tangible results (human connection, interaction, exchange) and intangible results (changing the world, make it a better place, money). This is your duty. You will learn about your duty when you encounter of your moment of obligation.

Be gentle, man

When you’re gentle you differentiate, you pay attention to details, you make little gestures of big meaning. You’re the star without looking for fame. You’re the guy/gal next door but with an impressively shining aura. You’re natural and no actor can beat this. You’re not acting as your best because you want a “Thank you!”. You do it unconditionally. You don’t expect anything in return.

Writing therapy

Writing heals. Writing keeps (your memories alive). Writing sells (making a living from it). Writing allows a dialogue with yourself (hey buddy, how are you doing). Writing kicks off your engine called brain. In short: It all starts with writing and you should write, too.

When you “want” an “and”

I’m a fan of playing with words. It’s one of my favorite playgrounds. However, this is another topic. You learnt that using “want” and “and” functions as catalyzers for your communication. You avoid “must” and “but” because they are what I call “terminal words”. I’m hyberboling now and will call them “cancer words”. They end things. “want” and “and” extend, amplify, prolong things, keep things alive. They are “dancer words”. Rhymes well, right? With this magic duo you’re encouraged to move your hips, dance along the conversation and make it a musical.

The take-away for the weekend: If you succeed in life you have the guarantee to create your own legend and be somebody instead of a nobody. Pursue it. Stay, nevertheless, gentle and humble in your actions, meaning: act like a star but only in the process. Be a celebrity while you work but be Mr. Nobody before and after it because before your action you haven’t achieved anything and after you’re up for your next thing to succeed in (and in your mind you still haven’t achieved anything).

Write as a therapy so you know yourself best by chatting with your self, memorize your life and know where to go. Be brave to also encounter your dark parts, very dark. Black. And when you do that writing avoid “but” and “must” because everything you do from now on will be directed towards what you want and what other people need. And. Want.

Done.

This was episode 25 of the #weekdaykickoff 🌊. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.