24: Don’t use “must” and “but” today

Hahaha. You’re a funny person. First you give me inspiration and a kick in the butt and now you want me to not use particular words. Who are you? Some kind of weirdo?!

Before you jump off, let me explain.

I’m here to get you into a mindset that pushes you, makes you move and puts you into a position of being self-responsible for every action of your day. Also, right now when you’re chewing your nails, drinking that 3rd cup of coffee and scrolling aimlessly through the Facebook stream that anyway doesn’t reflect your interests anymore.

You’re looking for distraction, you think, but what you’re actually looking for is having a rich, meaningful life. Ah, you’re one of those selling the dream and living from selling the dream to others who fall into your trap? Ehm, nope!

I’m the one who’s potentially your best friend although we don’t know each other. I can help you elevate up, up, up without selling you something. If I care about you (and/or your business) I will provide a massive amount of value for you.

Get back to the point. Why no “must” and “but”? Ok, there you go.

If you must do something, you may not want to do it. It’s something/-one else telling you to do it. You have zero motivation, zero spirit and drive to do it because you do it for someone else.

Ok, now the “but” part! Ok ok, Mr. Impatient.

When you “but” something you potentially end a conversation. You can kill a stream of thought and make the person you’re responding to with a “but” feel uncomfortable. If you “but” it, you close the door right in front of your conversation partner’s face.

I suggest to use “want” and “and” instead. If you want something, you do it. No questions asked. You go for it. When you “and” something you keep the conversation alive, adding another aspect or even gently disagreeing with that other person’s opinion. And you do it smoothly. But you do it smoothly. You felt the difference of both?

The take-away from today: Observe how “want” and “and” change the way you communicate. Try it today, and if you like it, continue using them. It takes some time to adjust your way of speaking and you’ll feel obstacles doing it (because it can seem not natural), but give it a try and let me know if it does something for you.

This was episode 24 of the #weekdaykickoff  🌊. Every Monday-Friday morning. Colombian time. Until episode 5 I also audio-recorded on Anchor, you can find me there as “Alexander Kluge”.

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