One of my favorite quotes from author Colin Wright goes like:
You’re not a fraction looking for another fraction. You’re complete: look for the same.
So in your constant journey to find someone you should never forget how powerful it is to be you, you as being self-sufficient for you, you as wanting to be self-sufficient. In the case of being on your own, you need to be able to cope with it – independently.
I’m not saying you shall abandon people and society, but give yourself proof that you can do it just on your own. Are you able to do it? Or are you dependent on something / someone? Are you afraid to be independent? Does it scare you?
Good. It should but it shouldn’t impress you too much since fear is also something to overcome like hunger — just grab a snack. Or with regard to fear: prove your fear, its strength, go into the fear, do what scares you. And then verify how far you came, or how it was when you fully felt the fear. The more often you do it, the less fearful you become.
Me, I’m scared of heights and water. Still I walked up big mountains or volcanoes in Guatemala, stood on high bridges like the Golden Gate in San Francisco and swam across a part of a bay in Indonesia where I didn’t know what to expect. I was scared, especially in the water. But I did it anyway. My fear of heights has become less, I’ve become pretty confident about it. Still, my fear of water, especially underwater persists. I’m horribly frightened of diving under-water. This is one of my challenges which I will overcome – time will tell, and reality will catch up with my mindset.
The take-away from today: You’re powerful just on your own. You’re 100%. So while you socialize, team up, find a partner, and marry or any of those things, keep in mind that you are a complete person looking for another complete person — to make it 200%.
Enjoy the day.