013: Don’t be romantic about money

Don’t be romantic about money

Money is a tool. You like to attach feelings to it although you don’t understand that it is a unidirectional relationship. Money does not give back.

Money does not care about you. Why do you care so much about it that you are afraid to lose it (as if it was a human person)? You are putting money on the podium. You want to start praying to it and treat like a Messiah?

Money is what you make out of it. Money can drive you when you want to reach a certain amount to invest into a particular thing. Money can drive you crazy if you enter a stage where you feel controlled by money. But you cannot be controlled by money.

Money does not exist as much as it does exist. When you think money is controlling you or people tell you that, you have a problem with yourself, not with money. You somehow related money to something you now blame to control you. Money is neither good nor bad.

Lack of money is not bad. Being wealthy is not bad neither. Money is not an indicator for success. You are successful when you go after the meaning of life, when you follow the purpose of your existence. What’s the meaning of life?


  1. Help people.
  2. Continue to exist so you can help people.

If use to the tool named „money“ to help people and continue to exist you lead a purposeful life. This is what your life is supposed to mean. See how I’m not talking about posessing things, owning a house, have a family or reproduce. I’m simply saying that by the act of giving another person (one or more) a hand for all the time of your existence you will live a fulfilled and happy life.

The Dalai Lama smile will be your trademark. In fact, just yesterday I looked into the eyes of a newborn baby. It was 3 days old. His eyes were closed but it didn’t matter because what I saw was pure calm and being in center with oneself. This little guy still was in center with himself and for the next few years until his early teenage it will probably be like that until a crack will happen. Another crack will come and another one. Something will happen along the way and he will struggle. He will struggle a lot.

He will first help himself, get his shit together and then realize what he just did for himself he can do with others: Helping them to get their shit together, So when the graveyard man will be coming you will be lying on the floor, having your eyes closed and smiling because you found your center again — like the little newborn. Will you be reborn? Yes, you will but you won’t know what form you’ll become in the second try until you ceased to exist in the first try.

Money will also not help you answer this question. You will probably be covered my money because you made a lot of it. Not because you wanted to but because you helped so many people and the only way for them to show gratitude was by paying for you offered, as a book, as a workshop, as an email as a conversation. If you are a businessman or have a business mindset and you help people with all brutal honesty you will enrich people’s lives and they will happy to you for that. If you fabricate rich lives, you will get the return of your effort and investment into the people as the result. In the long run. No quick rush and win. Think in decades rather than years.

If your intentions are true, honest and „aufrichtig“, the money will follow. Why have money? You want to have money when you want to make an impact in the world because being average is what you have been for the longest time and you think:

I should unleash my potential because I feel it’s inside me and I have not been using it properly — or at all.

One single YouTube video changed my perception on money back in March/April 2016 when I watched it for the first time. In terms of how I think about money it created the biggest shift. After, I was not able to consider money the same. The protagonist in the video, Anton Kreil, teaches you 10 lessons to achieve financial success. If you watch the video and read “The 10X Rule” by Grant Cardone you are on good way to live a rich (enriched) life.

These two resources are the best advices I can give. You will figure out the rest.

I repeat:

  1. Watch „10 Secrets to Achieve Financial Success“. In terms of money it will be your best 2-hour investment of your life. You will also learn how to focus and work towards your goal. See the 10 secrets below (with the timecode).
  2. Read „The 10X Rule

Full disclosure: I come from an average household, grew up in average area and have been living an average live for most of my 33 years. With the end of my studies in 2013 I said good-bye to convention and what the average person does, and started only listening to what seemed right for me. I hope you will have this caesura moment where you feel that this life you had so far cannot be it.

Call it mid-life crisis when you are 45. Call it being a rebel when you are 16 or call it stupid when you are 33 and you are supposed to (start to) have a family.

Screw average and convention. You will know what’s best for you. You really do. It’s all inside you. Let it come out. Write it out loud. Express it. Be courageous to face your inner world with the all the fears, hurdles and monsters. You know how it is: If you defeated the dragon, you will see your paradise. Your very own version of paradise. This will be the result of you being you.

Here are the „10 secrets to achieve financial success“:

  1. Respect Money and be Indifferent towards it (20:59)
  2. Rent to Own – Define Assets and Liabilities Properly (42:33)
  3. Build and Own your own Infrastructure (50:16)
  4. Go Travelling, Get Perspective, Get your Dream Life (1:01:00)
  5. Know that Risk is Subjective not Two Dimensional (1:07:33)
  6. Seek out Alternative Education (1:17:45)
  7. Learn to Value your Time Properly (1:24:30)
  8. Ditch the Smart Phone (1:33:12)
  9. Mainstream Media is Useless. Don’t consume it (1:40:51)
  10. Choose Role Models that suit Your Objective (1:45:09)

Source: YouTube

This was episode 13 of the #weekendpunchline 👊. Every Saturday and Sunday.

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